Couples in their relationships VS Infidelity
Introduction
We can say that infidelity is a phenomenon of relative frequency with a high rate of influence in the breaking up of relationships.
Infidelity has a devastating impact. The original damage originated by a breakage into trust cannot be mitigated and forgotten in an easy way. Several emotions and feelings are involved, and in many of the cases not expressed and solved. If the relationship continues, some resentment and dramatic changes might appear.
What is infidelity?
Infidelity means “a breakage in an agreement, trust and betrayal in a relationship. Infidelity is a loss of trust, a betrayal which requires a cognitive and affective reconstruction. Wounds are very profound and they last for a very long time, some are never forgotten.
v Factors that lead to infidelity
Childhood
Emptiness
Sexual problems
Difference in values
v Types of infidelity
c) Infidelity due to monotony.
f) Infidelity due to in satisfaction.
v Consequences of infidelity
There are two ways of infidelity: continue with the relationship or a complete separation. Although only one might be the only one involved into another relationship, both might have several consequences:
• The union and the relationship are weakened. After an infidelity, some people divorce, other feel accused and punished for the rest of their marital life, where the one who was unfaithful might feel insecure, afraid of starting other relationships and, sometimes, seeking for a moment to take revenge over the other person.
• When falling into an adventure, we can fall into lack of love. An adventure is not an act of love; love does not destroy lives, or makes people feel sorrowful. Therefore love losses its true value.
• It affects children in a conscious and unconscious way. A child might fear abandonment, lack of trust, shame, blame, as in some form he or she feels responsible.
• The person who has been betrayed might feel not respectful and develop a loss of self esteem. All of this, summed up to the fact of facing society itself, might cause months or years of anguish.
v Suggestions to support therapeutic work on infidelity
Once that there is infidelity, the emotional effort is very intense. If the couple stays in the relationship and it is developed in a satisfactory way, an adequate reconstruction is convenient. Reconciliation through regret and forgiveness from both parts.
Therapy from the Gestalt point of view starts from the fact that solutions are inside human beings and it is in him that conflicts are created when trying to find excuses and attribute them to the exterior world, not living as they should.
Conclusions
Infidelity is a problem that we can see more often nowadays and in which several factors are recurrent: family, economy, job, politics, and social status. It is important to have the correct information about the subject and be able to understand it. No relationship is ahead of it, therefore it is important to point out that human beings have the capacity of deciding whether to do it or not. So then, no one is responsible if his or her couple was unfaithful. One alternative for infidelity problems is therapeutic work, where they can live their experiences at close hand and their feelings will flourish in order to arrive to coherent and mature decisions.
Introduction
We can say that infidelity is a phenomenon of relative frequency with a high rate of influence in the breaking up of relationships.
Infidelity has a devastating impact. The original damage originated by a breakage into trust cannot be mitigated and forgotten in an easy way. Several emotions and feelings are involved, and in many of the cases not expressed and solved. If the relationship continues, some resentment and dramatic changes might appear.
What is infidelity?
Infidelity means “a breakage in an agreement, trust and betrayal in a relationship. Infidelity is a loss of trust, a betrayal which requires a cognitive and affective reconstruction. Wounds are very profound and they last for a very long time, some are never forgotten.
v Factors that lead to infidelity
Childhood
Emptiness
Sexual problems
Difference in values
v Types of infidelity
c) Infidelity due to monotony.
f) Infidelity due to in satisfaction.
v Consequences of infidelity
There are two ways of infidelity: continue with the relationship or a complete separation. Although only one might be the only one involved into another relationship, both might have several consequences:
• The union and the relationship are weakened. After an infidelity, some people divorce, other feel accused and punished for the rest of their marital life, where the one who was unfaithful might feel insecure, afraid of starting other relationships and, sometimes, seeking for a moment to take revenge over the other person.
• When falling into an adventure, we can fall into lack of love. An adventure is not an act of love; love does not destroy lives, or makes people feel sorrowful. Therefore love losses its true value.
• It affects children in a conscious and unconscious way. A child might fear abandonment, lack of trust, shame, blame, as in some form he or she feels responsible.
• The person who has been betrayed might feel not respectful and develop a loss of self esteem. All of this, summed up to the fact of facing society itself, might cause months or years of anguish.
v Suggestions to support therapeutic work on infidelity
Once that there is infidelity, the emotional effort is very intense. If the couple stays in the relationship and it is developed in a satisfactory way, an adequate reconstruction is convenient. Reconciliation through regret and forgiveness from both parts.
Therapy from the Gestalt point of view starts from the fact that solutions are inside human beings and it is in him that conflicts are created when trying to find excuses and attribute them to the exterior world, not living as they should.
Conclusions
Infidelity is a problem that we can see more often nowadays and in which several factors are recurrent: family, economy, job, politics, and social status. It is important to have the correct information about the subject and be able to understand it. No relationship is ahead of it, therefore it is important to point out that human beings have the capacity of deciding whether to do it or not. So then, no one is responsible if his or her couple was unfaithful. One alternative for infidelity problems is therapeutic work, where they can live their experiences at close hand and their feelings will flourish in order to arrive to coherent and mature decisions.
